Friday, February 16, 2007

Why Is Life So Unfair?

Those of you who don’t read the comments here may not know that I’m blogging again because I’m unable to finish rewriting my manuscript in time to submit it for the contest deadline. I may also not be able to continue blogging, so I’m doing it while I can. Something came up that has thrown me off track. The last few days have been challenging ones for me. They have made me want to rant, rave, and rail against whatever karma I have that makes my life suck.

I am not alone. A lot of you are facing big challenges as well, and some of you are making painful transitions. Juju is troubled by affairs of the heart. Rain is coping with family members who require her constant care. Corn Dog, the bravest of us all, has to struggle every day just to continue to live. I don’t think Roxan can tell us when she last had a “good day.” Sonya is buried under twelve feet of snow, and her husband is stranded, unable to get home to help her because of it. And none of us are alone with our troubles. All over the world, people are homeless, sick, starving, and in either physical or emotional pain.

Many years ago, this is the point where I would be shouting, “Where is the justice in the world? Where is God? What kind of God allows these things to happen? Why is life so unfair?” Why are some privileged and born with silver spoons in their mouths, and others are born to suffer? Are Paris Hilton and Nicole Ritchie better people, or more deserving than us? Are we better than this child? Compared to him, I live a life of unimaginable wealth. WTF? When I was a kid, my mom used to tell me to clean my plate, that children in China were starving. Being a little smart ass, I told her we should wrap up my spinach and send it to them. In spite of myself, I learned early on that life is neither fair, nor equal, and it made it very hard to believe in God.

In 1979, this happened, and I was unable to be agnostic any longer. My faith in a Source of All Things was not a choice. It became undeniable, but it still didn’t explain the inequities I saw in life, so I went searching. That’s when I came across a concept called karma. You know what karma is … an eye for an eye … do unto others … for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.

Every cause that has not yet produced its effect is an event that has not yet come to completion.
~ Gary Zukov, Seat of the Soul; page 41

Aha! There was an answer. We were being punished for the actions of our previous lives. One astrological theory stated that until a person experienced their first Saturn Return (between the ages of 28 and 29), they were working off karmic debt. There was an end in sight! Only the woes didn’t end. I knew I wasn’t doing anything to anyone that was boomeranging back on me. I wasn’t stealing, cheating, lying, gossiping, or anything else I could think of that would cause those things to come flying back in my face, yet they continued to happen. There had to be another answer. I could not figure out what the hell I had done to deserve my life; whatever it was, it must not have been as bad as what the poor child in the photo did.

Your intentions create the reality that you experience. Until you become aware of this, it happens unconsciously. Therefore, be mindful of what you project. ~ Gary Zukov, Seat of the Soul; page 120

This has grown long, and you want to stop reading now. Tomorrow, I will tell you why karma isn’t the whole story, and why all we need is love.

Continued at Why Karma is Only Half the Answer and All We Need is Love

Followed by Old Souls and the Evolutionary Ladder


  1. Have you heard of "The Secret"? It's a book and DVD--haven't seen or read either, but I saw the folks who created it on Oprah (I'm a middle-aged SAHM. Of course I watch Oprah; I think it's required). One of the ladies put it very well, I think, when she said that we should think of our lives like we've just sat down in a restaurant and placed an order. When we whine, "My life sucks!"--we've just placed an order with the universe. "My family is crazy."--another order to be served up. "I'll never be happy, finish this book, get an agent, have a happy marriage...whatever." Orders, orders, orders!

    The power of positive thinking is a concept that's been around for a long time. It really works. No, life isn't always fair, but it is what it is and we have to see the value in the lessons that are brought to us; whether brought on ourselves, or through the thoughts and actions of others. I have to believe that there's a reason, and a lesson, behind all of it.

    And I'm looking forward to the rest of the story!

  2. HI...
    What you said abt Karma was a concept of Indian Philosophy.. Early Indian philosophers believed it to be true. Its a theory of Causation applied to social living.

    And personally I find little reason to disbelive this. I see that most ofthe event and the results I get are related in one way or other. There hav been times when I wondered result of what this event might be. But at a latter stage I realised the cause. So now whenever I face such situation, i wait till I find the cause it produced. This is the converse realtion of the thing u said in "Every cause that has not yet produced its effect is an event that has not yet come to completion"

    See my life@blog BLOGS. And be sure to comment or mail me to discuss any further issues...

  3. Anonymous2:31 PM

    Just a quick hi. I'm not back up, but wanted to drop in.

  4. I don't know what the full story is yet and I, too, look forward to hearing it. I do know this: life isn't fair or just. A lot of the time, it just plain sucks. Sometimes the only thing I know for sure is that I won't get out of it alive.

    Whatever is going on, Lesia, you're in my thoughts.

  5. Great post. I'll be waiting until tomorrow to read more. The really unbrave Corn Dog.

  6. Great big cyber hugs lesia, I miss you and I am here, I hope you know that.


  7. Oh, Val. I'm so sorry to hear you're troubled. I've been consciously leaving you alone so you could write. Are you okay? You've worried me. I was just thinking of you this morning (well, I always wonder how you're doing every day.) and although I thought the blog was closed til March, I checked again, like I do just about every day.

    Are you okay????

  8. Hi Cheryl, I haven't heard of The Secret, but maybe that's because I don't watch Oprah. I used to like her a lot, but the past couple years or so, she's been annoying me with the way she interrupts her guests. She needs to shut up and allow other people to speak once in a while. I understand the principle behind what you're saying, though.

    Hi Saucy. I understand the Hindu beliefs, and have great respect for them. Glad you stopped by.

    Hey, Steve. We miss you. Do what you gotta do, but hurry back, okay?

    Thanks, SJ. Your humor makes me smile.

    CD, I think you're very brave! I doubt I would handle your siutation with as much humor and grace as you do.

    Hey Leary, yes, I know you're here. Thanks for the support.

    Hey Aaron, thanks for thinking of me. I'm fine. Ticked off, disappointed, and frustrated, but trying to keep it in perspective.

  9. I've had good days, bad days, lazy days, busy days. Days I wanted to die and days I wanted to live forever.
    It has been ages since I had a day that was fantastic. I'm due for one.

  10. Yes, Roxan, you are due for one. You deserve it. You deserve more than one at a time. You deserve weeks and months and years of great days, and I hope you have them!

  11. Morning Lesia! I'm glad I stopped in to see what you've been up to. What a powerful, thought provoking post. I'm going to read it again. I'm thankful that we've stumbled upon each other in the cyber world, I feel like I'm getting to know a valuable friend. Thanks!

  12. Hey, WW. I feel the same way. I was impressed with you (& your blog) from my very first visit.

    If some of you here aren't familiar with Wonderwood, I hope you'll get to know him and help make him part of our circle.

  13. Thanks Lesia, for making me feel welcome in your circle :-)

  14. It's not MY circle. I'm just part of it. There's a lot of really good people in our circle, and I know you'll be glad to get to know them, and vice versa. I just hope I'll be able to continue to blog and keep up with everyone. Some things have come up and my time is going to become very limited soon. You can always go down my blog roll, though, and find someone interesting every time.


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